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"...the parent that decides to lecture their child on all the things they should have done to win -" despite having not played the game themselves for 20-30 years or never. Hockey attracts those types in Canada- some of them have gotten so physically and mentally abusive that the amateur leagues for kids and teens finally had to push back with the threat of attendance bans and other legal consequences if necessary.

This is not unlike the ableism directed by the neurotypical towards the neurodiverse- it comes from a blatant and intolerantly superior attitude that does not consider the neurodiverse as human beings equal to them. And that hurts everyone.

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Great read. I’m glad I came across your work!

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Welcome. So glad you are here!

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Just your title alone validates my existence lol but seriously, this is great! My mom if you can call her that, taught me to ignore my pain. I'm relearning everything this year without her in my life happily:) peace

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A few months ago, I wrote a piece about self-esteem and the struggle to feel good enough. Your article truly resonated with me, and I found a lot of comfort in your words. I really appreciated the thoughtful tips you provided. Thank you for this, truthfully 🤍.

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Thank you for your comment. and please do share your article!

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Self-compassion is Kryptonite to those of us who were born and raised in the twentieth century! If only due to indoctrination in the stiff-upper-lip philosophy in our families, communities and cultures. And yet self-compassion is the one thing that can minimise psychological disorders and geopolitical wars. After all hurt people, hurt people!

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Sep 19Liked by Ben Miller

Your columns are always good. Today's was wonderful, and such good advice for all to hear, every day. Thank you!

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Thanks so much, Len!

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Sep 19Liked by Ben Miller

Great article Ben, this needs to be said more often.

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Appreciate your comment and support!

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